Hello loving, beautiful, kind souls..
I first want to say Happy Thanksgiving (and Happy Holidays to come) to those who celebrated and enjoyed their holiday with their family and friends. What a blessing!
This message, however, is specifically is for those humans who don't get spoken about as much. It's a message of love to those of us who are struggling, who may have issues or conflicts with family/friends/ourselves, who may not feel well or nearly at their best.. for those people who are just. going. through. a. tough. time. Those in the struggle. Those in pain. Those who feel stuck in any way.
I see you. I feel you. I've been there. I honor you for where you are at, at this very moment.
Life can be difficult at any stage and at any age, regardless of where we come from, what we 'have', or what we may look like on the outside. On top of that, hard times can get amplified and feel heightened or worse during the holidays. Why? I believe because the holidays are marketed to us and also generally talked about socially as the "happiest" and 'best!" time of the year. In a 'perfect' world (I don't think think there is perfect though, ha), maybe that would be the case. But if you are in any type of pain (mental, emotional, spiritual, physical, relationship/family wise, etc) you may feel extra-bad that you aren't feeling those warm and fuzzy feelings. Maybe you had to go to a family holiday event and felt uneasy and/or that you couldn't be your true self. Maybe you were asked about things you didn't feel comfortable talking about. Maybe you felt judged. Maybe it's an anniversary of losing someone you loved, or it brings up memories of the past. Perhaps things are so bad you didn't go to a holiday party at all and spent it alone. Maybe you live away from home and couldn't spend the holiday with loved ones, even if you wanted to. The possibilities are endless.
No matter how deep the pain is or what the struggle may be, I try to believe in HOLDING ON TO HOPE that joy and peace is still possible AND deserving for us all. There can and will be a better day if we learn to honor what we need, feel our full range of feelings, try our best to believe in and love ourselves, crucially reach out for support from people we can trust (both professionally and/or non-professionally).. and don't give up. Take a break, do whatever you need to honor and take care of YOU. After the darkest of nights, the sun does rise again, right? It IS possible to reach out and find someone that DOES listen, validate and respect your feelings and experiences. In addition to other things, I've been listening to a lot of the healing work of author Louise Hay (RIP), and she has inspired me greatly with her kind words and affirmations. I agree with her that transforming our lives starts with us, within us. If we are willing to do whatever it takes to learn to love ourselves, we can improve our relationships and even help change the world. Check Louise's work out if this sounds interesting to you! I have posted one of her quotes below. I am deeply grateful for so many teachers, therapists, friends, strangers on the internet, pets, animals and many other people/things that have helped me along my personal Yellow Brick Road.
Sending you love and healing on your self-love journey, wherever you are RIGHT NOW. My holiday wish this year is that we all believe, deep down, we ARE good enough and that we are worth learning to love ourselves and worthy of love and joy.
Connecting this all back to music, art and pop culture, as I do with my #PopTherapy.. Some (probably many) of our favorite artists and celebrities go through the SAME TOUGH STUFF WE DO. It brings me joy to hear from listeners that artists/celebrities have inspired them to honor their mental health, learn to love themselves or to just think about things on a deeper level, whether it's Selena Gomez, Beyonce, Lena Dunham, Adele, Miley Cyrus, Michelle Williams, Demi Lovato, BTS, Lady Gaga, Nicki Minaj, Britney Spears, Zayn Malik, Ariana Grande, Charlamagne Thagod, Katy Perry, Ellen Degeneres, Camila Mendes, Ellie Goulding, Prince Harry, Kendall Jenner, Camila Cabello and countless others (Sorry I couldn't list them all who have spoken about it or of course those who are going through it privately!). Some talk about it openly, others don't. Neither is right or wrong. Just remember that people you 'know' on social media, coworkers, neighbors, friends, family, the most famous celebrities who seem to have it all.. they too could be struggling, just like us.